Sharing a behind-the-scenes video as I’m working on feedback from one of my first-round readers on my layover in Lihue.
Interview with Author Lynne Golodner.
I’m talking about my process, advice for new writers, and how I feel about traditional and self-publishing…check out my interview with author Lynne Golodner.
https://lynnegolodnerauthor.substack.com/p/conversations-with-an-author
Plan With Me: Erin Condren A5 Flip Through
My new YouTube video is up. I’m sharing my A5 planner layout and how I use it in conjunction with my 12-Week Year plans for my writing career and life.
Plan With Me: The 12 Week Year Planning System
As I gear up to start editing The Last Nanny and begin writing a new book, I’m shaking up my planning routine for Q3 with The 12 Week Year by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington!
I Quit My Career to Travel the World and Write Books: My Midlife Crisis
Five Days Off…but not from writing
I have five whole days off. Monday through Friday and I’m so excited. If you follow me on social media, you likely know I’ve had a few changes these last two weeks. I posted a short video on TikTok about quitting my job as a school psychologist.
And since then I have been busy working my flight attendant job, working back to back to back trips to Maui and twice to Lihue. It’s been nice to jump back into flying, especially since I was lucky enough to have such great trips! Rod even came with me on the last one since we’ll be celebrating our 26th anniversary tomorrow. Here are a few videos and pictures.
So yes, a lot has been going on, and it’s all good stuff, but I’m staring down these next five days and feeling enormously grateful to have some time off–but it won’t be from writing. The funny thing about deciding to be a writer is that you never, not really, have time off from it. Because even if you’re not actively typing away, you always seem to be thinking about writing. Every day is the question: Will I write today?
I never have a day where I’m not either thinking about my current project, next projects, or the logistics of getting my writing done that day. I once read that someone somewhere said that being a writer was like having homework every day for the rest of your life–it’s the most true statement I’ve heard about this life.
Not to say it’s a bad thing, necessarily. Only that it never seems to matter if you’re on vacation, or watching television, or reading someone else’s book…the thoughts, obsessions really, about writing are obtrusive and always there. It’s the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing at night. Every day. I have no idea if that’s normal, but it is true.
Anyway, I’ll be at home catching up with friends and enjoying my anniversary for the next five days.
And writing, always the writing.
You Won’t Escape Critique, So Don’t Worry About It
Once you decide to create something, anything, and send it into the world it will be judged.
There will only be a handful of responses to your efforts.
People will either love it, hate it, or feel completely indifferent.
Of course, we always hope that our work will be enjoyed and appreciated. And if we’ve done our best, and ensured we’ve sent out the very best we were capable of at the time, we can at least stand beside and feel proud of that work. When we’ve done all we can, the chances are good that at least some people will resonate and love it.
But that’s only some people.
Which means, other people will not love it. Other people will hate what you’ve done.
It’s okay, I promise. Remember the old adage, you can only ever hope to please some people some of the time anyway.
I actually think there is something worse than those other people hating your work. At least you made them feel something! And with those feelings, they may my inclined to leave you a terrible one-star review.
Other people read one-star reviews. They are curious about those strong feelings of hate. So curious, one-star reviews can lead a new reader to investigate for themselves what all the fuss was about.
I’d argue there is something much worse than single stars and hatred when it comes to our creative works.
It’s indifference. When a reader either didn’t engage with the work at all, or if they did, they came away feeling nothing.
When a book or movie or any form of art makes you feel nothing, you never bother to say anything at all about it. Why would you? You barely even remember the experience.
No matter who you are, or how amazing your work is, once you put it out into the world it will be criticized and critiqued by others.
Accept that this is true, there is no escaping it, and that it will absolutely happen. Then, do whatever you have to to release any worry fear, or care about it. You can’t control or avoid it, and it happens to everyone brave enough to put their work out into the world.
You Can’t Accomplish What You Don’t Show Up For
It’s easier to imagine what we want and what we’d like to do than to physically do it.
Imagining, visualizing, can be fun and it’s an important step in the creation process.
But it’s only a first step.
If we want our thoughts to eventually become our reality, imagination will require the follow-through of physical acts. You can dream about yourself winning a race all day long but if you don’t actually do the running, you’ll never cross any finish line ever.
And you can’t start running if you don’t first show up to run with your shoes laced up.
Do you imagine yourself accomplishing your goals? Yes? Great!
Now show up for them and take action.
You Don’t Need Their Permission To Create
You were born with your unique ability to create.
You don’t need permission, support, guidance, or blessings from anyone to follow your creative instincts.
Humans are, by nature, highly creative beings. All of us.
Some of us are drawn to words, some pictures, others form. Some are drawn to creative concepts. Wherever your innate creative drive takes you, follow it. Indulge it. Get dirty with it.
You will never regret the minutes you spend with your creativity.
You will likely very much regret walking away from it.
How I Manage My Time
I’m busier than ever and still feeling joy. How I manage my time and beat feeling overwhelmed while having three careers.